I have to second-guess everything I WANT to do based on if I CAN do it...
This, I'm afraid, is called marriage. It's a fact of life, at least to some extent. However...
...because I have so many family obligations that I simply don't have the time.
And what exactly is stopping you from just saying "no", or if you're not feeling like direct confrontation, how about conveniently falling asleep right before?
I have no more hobbies or pursuits I enjoy...
This is a feeling that I am sad to say I have shared, but it was anxiety due to a stressful job, not a stressful marriage.
because the ones I did have my wife didn't like and the ones my wife wants me to do are goddamn retarded.
And what exactly is stopping you from telling her "Whateva! I do what I want!" when she tries to get you to do something you don't want? Or how about just ignoring her for a little while, since she seems to have some sort of bizarre fixation with spending all your time with her?
The few times I do get to do what I want I get bitched at.
If there are other rooms in the house, go to them. If not, leave the house. If she bitches when you return, leave again. Eventually she may get the message.
I can't have a discussion with people to vent my frustration because my wife gets angry when I talk about our relationship to other people, gets angry when I type online, and gets angry when I talk to her.
She's so insecure about the status of your relationship that she doesn't want you talking about it to anyone including her? Seriously, that is not a healthy way to deal with
anybody if there is a problem. The more you talk about her, the more I swear she sounds like a teenager.
Oh shit I just called someone a teenager...I'm getting old!This isn't even the fun kind of pissed that I used to experience here; it's a frustrated pissed because I'm too goddamn stubborn to end my marriage even though I'm utterly miserable.
This is unacceptable. The only pissed of Sedodes should be is the kind of pissed off you used to experience here!
Fuck my life. If I weren't so egotistical I'd be suicidal.
Seriously, if there are problems to the point where you're thinking like this and she's unwilling to even
listen to your gripes or allow you to have them with others, it may be time to walk away.
Maybe you'd be happier if you'd, y'know, grow a pair.
Simple, concise, and to the point. I like it.
I tried to explain to you some years ago the soul-corroding compromises involved in daily intimacy with another person, but you were appalled by what I was saying. If this observation pisses you off, well, you're in good company in this thread.
Now it seems Sedodes understands that observation. He has seen that which cannot be unseen. I just hope it's not too late for our resident stupid box.
Sorry all, I launched into "help Sedodes" mode even though that wasn't the thrust of this thread.
